We don't judge. Or we shouldn't judge as case managers.* It's not fair that a father doesn't take care of his kids but his check shouldn't be reduced so greatly that he can barely live off his income. Not to take away from his responsibility that he should've taken care of his responsibilities. But he already got the results of his mistake and now he'll have to pay child support. It's my job to advocate that he gets a more fair judgment.
I've worked with men who failed to pay child support, people who committed felonies, people who were involved in domestic abuse towards their partner, past or current drug or alcohol abusers. It's illuminating to work with people who've made choices I may not agree or understand. It makes me think -- about what brings people to make decisions they do and the context in which they make choices.
I don't think it's such a wide gap a person from making a right or wrong decision (of course defining right and wrong is another story, but I would keep it as a right decision is one that doesn't hurt yourself or another person). Makes me think also about how society views people with a tarnished background, particularly in terms of rehabilitation. It's challenging in many ways to force myself to consider another person's perspective.